My mom has a saying Raisins for nothing and currents for cakes, I have no idea where it comes from but she tends to stand by the statement when things go a tad haywire. Over time I have come it to mean that bad things can happen for no apparent reason, and that you just sometimes have to accept that you will never know why, just have to chalk it up to experience and move forward. One thing I have found is that sometimes you need to have things go wrong in order to obtain the right thing. That by experiencing things that may not be as planned or life just takes a wrong turn, by taking the wrong turn the next turn is the right one, sometimes it is more right than when you began. But the only way you found the right path was going the wrong way. I think what I am tring to say is that even if things appear to be going very wrong, perhaps there is a reason for it, maybe not fully explainable at the time, but by having to endure the chaos you will find yourself eventually at the right place. For sometimes in trying to get from A to B you have to go from C to Z first.